In Episode 26 of Vibe with Venerables, Bhante Sujato discusses the Buddha’s teachings on conflict resolution. He recounts a story from the Vinaya about Prince Dīghāvu, who has the chance to take revenge on his parents’ murderer but chooses to forgive and let go instead, demonstrating the transformative power of forgiveness. The lesson at the heart of the story is that cycles of hatred and violence can be ended not by retaliation but by a conscious act of forgiveness and compassion. The story shows how, even in the wake of suffering and injustice, the greatest freedom comes from letting go rather than seeking vengeance.
Bhante Sujato also addresses the challenges of overcoming grudges, sharing personal experiences and advising compassion, empathy, and positive actions. He highlights the importance of not being defined by victimhood and the need for rational and emotional reconciliation in resolving conflicts.
Addendum to live teaching: The queen’s dohala (pregnancy craving) appears in the story of Prince Dīghāvu. In this tale, the queen’s craving is an early event that leads to the birth of Prince Dīghāvu and sets the stage for the story’s exploration of forgiveness and compassion. In essence, the queen’s dohala led to a positive outcome.
References
Kosambakakkhandhaka 10 (Kd10) – The Chapter Connected with Kosambi
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